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根据真实故事改编成的电影，往往更能在观看的时候入戏和动容。

这部片子感动到我了。

最让我泪崩的两幕，一幕是Tim帮John剃头，一幕是Tim和瘦成闪电的John脸贴着脸深情对望。

没必要轻易对个体的人生探索和因此遭遇的“意外”做道德审判，没有这段经历，他们又如何深刻肯定对方是人生挚爱呢。

人的思想、感情、欲望何其复杂，岂可随便冠以“渣男”的标签化就概括了一个有血有肉、真情实感的人。

赞一下后半段John的演员爆瘦出演，非常的敬业和专业，活生生的让人心疼和动容。

他和真实世界的John本人也确实非常的像。

美中不足就是中学时代的化妆和神态不够到位，有点出戏了。

John后半段暴瘦，形象大变，敬业而且表演很到位

真实世界的Tim和John

I didn't make it to the world premiere of Holding the man (2015) last Sunday in Sydney State Theater. But many friends went and spoke highly of. I did a quick check online and found out how influential the book has been ,basically the gay bible for Australian LGBT groups. Published in 1994, this auto-biography of Timothy Conigrave has shocked the whole Australia by its pure and real narration on homosexual love and also the description period in 1980s when HIV stroke Australia. And the play, adapted by Tommy Murphy in 2005, was also a legend in Australian theatre history, totally crash of ticket box wherever it toured. Not only has the play been on in almost every major cities in Australia and adapted by multiple theater companies such as Belvoir and Australia theater company, it also has made to London and LA for world tour. The legend continues for almost ten years and finally in 2014, director decided to adapt this story to big screen. While Tommy Murphy got rehired as screenplay writer and two hot popular Australian actors as lead, this movie has definitely become the most expected movie of the year. Audiences may get a bit worried due to the hyper successful play as a comparison. As a story about intimacy and delicate emotions, it could be much more easily demonstrated on a single stage with touching and smart dialogues. Fancy cinematographic work or extra mise-en scene could serve as minor importance in story-telling itself. But still, there are definitely more space to develop this romance in film.It is the autobiography at first place that attracted most, with the real story of Timothy and his 15-year partners John holding hand together through bitter-sweet first love, sex, fights, disease and finally death.I'm such kind of person who just cannot hold back my curiosity on such literary works. After searching online without finding new books to sell or ebook to download, I went down to the uni library and borrowed the only copy of Murphy's play. While unfortunately there was still no Timothy's work, it's worth reading the play first to see how he carried out this life-long story in a two-act play. It didn't take me long to read, maybe 2 hours or so. But I was sort of blushed inbetween sometimes, imagining the actors talking so bluntly at stage, about the expression of love and sex. Murphy ingeniously separate the two acts with scenes of love and sorrow, making audiences smile or unable to stop laughing for some of humors at first but incredibly sad and may even cry out loud during the second set. Handful of casts but every role is just en-punto. The very thing that touched me in this play is that the whole storyline and every details of love and conflicts are so real, which could happening any place or just next-door, but people just failed to notice how normal LGBT group is or how fragile true love is, as any types of groups or love. But all we could think about is "weird" "sissy""always fighting for marriage""unhealty life styles" or "HIV positive " and so on. Three scenes in the play has left me strong impression.The first one lie in the beginning when Tim wrote John the letter after their first date, talking about the erection he had and masturbation afterwords with the worry about the expression on sex could be so rush for a new couple. The monologue felt so bold yet cute when actually spoken out from a 16-year old schoolboy. While john is the one who actually read the letter with Tim adding up some of his feeling on the side, the audiences could definitely feel the chemistry and the beautiful blump in-between. The second could be when Tim, in his puberty and freshly new in college, went throughout all these temptation in gay bar and gay peers. He gradually accepted the "non-monogamy or open relationship" theory and decided to separate with John for a while. He alleged that they are both "sexual inexperienced" due to long relationship with purely each other . I believe that most of the audiences and readers will feel the stupidity and ignorance of Tim to trying to sabotage this wonderful relationship and affection(which has been built up throughout the previous scenes). This can be a turning point of the play and indicated the heartbreaking ending, especially when Tim regretted to have infected AIDS to John and cried in front her mom for redemption. But ultimately it shocks me by putting out straightly and ruthlessly how fragile love could be when facing temptations and fresh inspirations. My finally emotional outcry goes to a simple gesture or move instead a complete scene. Though I have to admit that the whole "finding out HIV positive" scenes is torturing and heartbreaking. The simple gesture that Tim "lifts up John's shirt with his mouth and snaked his head underneath it" when they lay on bed after the news and couldn't go to sleep. With too many briliant dialogues and plots in this play, this move had just crushed all the doubts and sadness about their relationship, leaving the ultimate intimacy and trust and treasure of each other. When that scene is supposed to be haunted with endless sorrow from on and off stage, this move has made us recall the beauty of love and support. Since in the play, the bed was hanging vertical above stage (audiences actually standing while leaning on the bed) , making audience have every move in sight. What's more, the design stage is lovely with the dim and lovely light around the bed on the dark and only some photos of their life together seen from behind. I can barely think of any better innovation in the film to surpass this scene. Though over three theaters around Australia has their versions and actors for this play, I still adore the first pair in Belvoir Sydney, Guy Edmond and Matt Zeremes just got this absolute chemistry and original innocence on those two characters, though the Brisbane version got much handsome ones. Anyway, looking forward to this film in August. I couldn't help but respecting Tommy Murphy as such a young successful playwright, hoping he could have more work on big screen as well.

开始时对 John 并没有太大的感觉，直到后段说到他特意去看 Tim 的表演，结束后 Tim 在 John 的车顶逗他的那段，让我觉得 John 很迷人，很优雅。

到了最后写到沉重的 AIDS 的部分，John 的豁达更是将这种优雅体现得淋漓。

Tim 是那种一开始就让人爱上的帅，当说到他剪了头发换成短发后，那种 charming 更是让人变得揪心，这一刻的美好，会在影片结尾被摧毁成什么样？

也许这类型的片，或者说现实中的这类少数人，我们看到的，听到的，总是免不了以这样的结尾来收场。

惋惜伤心后有时会伴随着罪恶的声讨，但正如其中一篇影评所写，如果没有这样做错过，你又怎么知道你最爱的是什么。

你看，即使戴着呼吸机的 John，举手投足之间所流露出来的，仍然是满满的爱。

这片子我最惊讶的一点是两个人的一拍即合。

七十年代的澳大利亚，两个高中生可以那么情不自禁，一个人热烈追求，另一个又主动迎合，很大胆也很幸运。

还有两个人的那种为自己争取自由的那种勇气，他们很早就会为平权运动而努力，同样也意识到自己权利的合法性和天然性。

虽然一切桥段都是那样的老套，无外乎是和父母的激烈争吵，家里的偷情，情书被老师发现又被父亲发现，关系稳定后的厌倦和背叛，但始终不变的是两个人的热情。

这种热情乐极生悲似的为后面的不幸埋下了伏笔。

本片美中不足的是，前半部分演员表演有些生疏，情绪变化的过于急转直下，也许是要注意到原作品本身的一些情节体现，想面面俱到。

后半部的缺点是病床上的剧情太长太拖沓，让人顿生疲倦。

让我流泪的是最后约翰重病，病中看着蒂姆说：我还想再做一次。

长时间的虐心的酝酿中，我终于流泪了。

这是一个青年临死前还保有的对爱的渴望，对这个世界最后的留恋。

和相爱的人阴阳两界，这是世界还有太多的景色没有看遍，这不舍让人神伤。

这种电影太令人伤心，让人心绪不宁，但好的电影就是能够让观众为之动容，这部做到了。

本来想要借着这个机会，盘点一下那些有“从两情相悦开始，再到一方乱搞，另一方痴痴爱恋”剧情的同志电影，后来发现这不仅是一个不小的工程，而且我的切入点也还没完全想好，所以只好先放弃这个想法先直接写对本片的感受好了。

言归正传，就像我题目中提到的，这部电影花了很多笔墨铺垫一种走投无路的假象，记忆深刻的有几个地方：开篇Tim打电话时，身后空荡荡的街道和沉默无言的暮年老者、以及Tim在看到John切开胸腔痛苦的样子，之后他背对着镜头站在一条路的中央，而这条路已经到了尽头，它的前方是一片水域；还有电影首尾呼应的一个场景，Tim仰面躺在海水的中央，远离海岸线。

如果你看过了电影，就会明白电影主人公所面对的状况有多么“糟糕”，但奇妙的是，电影却没有把重点纯粹放在悲剧当中，而是在悲剧中处处透着爱和不爱的斗争，然而爱总是胜出。

这部电影讲述了一对挚爱起起伏伏的15年的感情故事，故事里有对自身疑惑，也有对自我的坚持，还有感情中可能会发生的种种矛盾，以及这段感情最终因为疾病不得不在惋惜中结束的怅惋。

本片最打动我的情节是John已远去，然而因为生病，Tim处在在对珍爱一生的John的记忆即将消失的恐惧当中，电影用这样的情节牢牢地揪着观众的心，却猝不及防的用一句“John was beside you.”无比治愈的话让人泪流满面，满足的释然，说到底，电影的目的在于让观众深信并真切的体会到爱才是唯一的解药，爱也是唯一的出路。

已经很久没有为一部同志电影如此难过了，Love's gonna bring you home。

认真的看完了 想吐槽的是两个人演学生时代实在是有点出戏啊😂学生时代你我相遇 朋友们和父母们意外得知我们在一起了 我们也许会分开但不会分别 长大后也许每个人都会有厌倦期 但最爱的人永远是彼此 我们共同抗艾 我逗你欢笑 看着你难过我也不舒服 两句词印象深刻 “妈妈 就好像我亲手杀了我爱的人”“他的朋友 提姆”十五年的恋人 这段感情 是永恒的 杰克 在你离开后的十天后我就去找你了 在那十天里 我把我们的爱情故事写成了一本书 名字叫做 Holding The Man

这部同名电影改编自有澳洲同志版“罗密欧与茱丽叶”之称的真人真事小说《Holding The Man》，故事主轴都在描写一段长达十六年的爱情。

本书作者是蒂莫西‧康格里夫 (Timothy Conigrave) 三十四年短暂人生的回忆录，也是蒂莫西写给同志爱人约翰·可列奥(John Caleo)的最后情书。

影片中蒂姆对自己传染病毒给约翰非常的内疚和痛心，一直不离不弃的送走了约翰，而34岁的蒂姆相继一年多离开了人世....

抱紧他 (2015)7.72015 / 澳大利亚 / 剧情 爱情 同性 传记 / 尼尔·阿姆菲尔德 / 瑞安·柯尔 克雷格·斯托特

整个影片诙谐中穿插悲情与温暖，又有些许戏谑。

因为之前先看过平常心，似乎找到些相似的影子，也敬佩演员们敬业的品格，尤其孔雀为角色疯狂节食暴瘦感到心疼。

回到话题，确实导演对于时间的穿插式描述的把握欠火候，让人有些混乱。

很多人会抱怨这种大半段冗长悲情的渲染，我反而更能体会导演良苦用心，因为同性话题在于当时HIV恐慌的年代是沉重的（现在社会接受度高了，越来越多的同性影片都选择小清新风格，好比爱你西蒙）。

还有非常欣赏片中John的扮演者对于角色的拿捏，开始还认为大叔来扮演小鲜肉导演是懒得找小演员或什么，也许看过片尾现实人物影集，你才能突然领悟原来无论从发型、服装等等方面都是导演下过功夫的。

让我鼻酸的一幕是化疗后Tim为John理发，两人额头贴近的温存，无需过多言语，仅仅动作甚至一个眼神都是满满的爱意。

John是标准的侧颜美人，但我却观影中突然带入Jared Leto饰演的Hephaistion在亚历山大大帝大婚当晚送戒指时的puppy eyes，甚至想像要是他饰演John会不会更合适？

世上最浪漫的事莫过于两小无猜且两情相悦，最幸福的就是那个ta陪伴你的左右，无论世间还是天堂。

关于原著：原著的前半部分很像青春小说，生动、精彩又理想化；原著的中后部非常回忆录，全面的纪实，所以有些乏味而冗长，人物形象（主要是Tim）因为负面内容而全面、真实却不讨人喜欢。

书写到最后的时候，想必Tim本人已经进入身体机能衰退的晚期了，文学性较差，字里行间透露着“再写出一些关于John生前的事情吧”这样的想法。

Tim最让我难以接受的是，他从来没有因此对曾经放浪形骸的生活进行过反思。

即使在得知是自己传染的John以后，依然会要和其他年轻美好的肉体发生关系，死性不改。

书中的John是完美的，而Tim是有弱点的，这正是由于Tim对John深深的爱恋和对读者的诚恳。

前半部分很像小说《Call Me by Your Name》但是略比后者不足，然而这是全书最精彩最令人回味的部分了。

关于电影：电影做的最好的地方，一个是背景音乐BGM，一个是还原小说中John那修长的眼睫毛。

电影对剧情的改动也比较自然。

但是电影的不足也有很多，例如少年时期没能找15岁左右的小演员饰演Tim和John，导致看着两个大叔太出戏；例如时间顺序较乱，仅靠年份衔接，而人物的形象几乎没有变化；例如未能主次分明，最精彩的前半部分删减过多，草草了事，后半部分也照搬原著，完全没有主题深化或者深入探索，所有问题都是浅尝辄止。

对于这样一部地域感非常强的电影，第一个场景是美丽的意大利街景，导演真是不懂观众的心思。

关于幕后：Holding the Man原著和舞台剧在澳洲都是家喻户晓的，所以导演编剧的很多安排都是为了了解这个故事的观众考虑的。

幕后访谈中，Ryan落落大方，Craig居然激进机智又幽默，和John的性格完全不同。

而导演和编剧却是没什么野心，一板一眼。

难怪这么好一个故事，各种问题都是一带而过，仿佛刻意弱化了矛盾冲突。

艺术以外：原著描写Tim进入Monash大学Gaysoc协会的部分，我正好是在Monash Queer Lounge看的，和我在现实中经历过的情形相似到令我起了一身鸡皮疙瘩。

看到结尾的时候，图书馆马上就要关门，我跳过了一些最后的治疗过程，对Tim和Bob的争执也是兴味索然。

看完写给John的最后一封信，图书馆里已经只剩工作人员和我了。

迅速收拾好东西，一边走一边回味着Tim和John的相识相恋以及最后的分离，想到他们曾经都是脚下这片土地上生活过也消逝了的生命，忍不住眼泪濡湿了眼眶。

有个男同学看到我的神情，有些惊讶，犹豫着问道“You all right mate？

”，然而我却太尴尬不能回答，只能速速地离去……

温情，真实，不过分渲染什么，就是慢慢的叙述。

当时一直觉得演员颜值老，但是必须说演技要不错才可以诠释那种不一般的温情感。

有记忆点的几幕是片头Tim狂奔打电话问John的位置，因为他感觉他记不住正在lose it;Tim得知自己感染John后对妈妈说:“我感觉我亲手杀了我爱的男人”;John爸爸走过AIDS病房过道所见的一些细节场景，然后在压力和恐慌下扶墙;John带着氧气管和Tim make love的那一幕，一种无言的叹息，特别是此时的背景乐的贴切;John和Tim拆礼物，Tim的小暴躁以及John弥留之际那沉重饱含疼痛的呼吸这两幕直接泪崩。

这几幕比较有记忆点，然后记得最深的是第一个以及最后弥留之际男主的好演技，一种如果连记忆都无法挽留的深切恐慌。

即使很多都是老生常谈的剧本，但这部电影是比较紧凑的。